Don’t Worry, Honey, God will bring you someone special.

I hear that phrase or a phrase similar to it several times a week.

I am 30.

I am single.

I am a Christian.

And undoubtedly, also an old maid.

To be honest I am usually content with my life. I have a great family, friends. I have a wonderful job and I am continuing my education. Yet when it comes to that one thing…being a wife and a mom…I have moments of despair and depression. It is a true desire of my heart to be married and have children.

Most days I am okay with my singleness. I think about it at times and think, wow, life would be totally different if I was in a relationship or had children and I am quite happy with my single life.

And then certain times of the year come: Valentine’s Day, my birthday, New Years and Christmas.

The most dreaded for me is Christmas. As a single person you are surrounded by couples at Christmas parties, family get togethers, and other functions. And I start struggling. Usually I shed many tears at night in my room or sometimes even in my car on my way to some get together.

This year as I started to struggle with this after Thanksgiving I started to pray that God would please let my heart be okay this year. I want the season to be Joyful and Loving…I don’t want to paste on a happy face and inside my heart be breaking. Oh the life of a single gal.

He, being so faithful, as always sent me a gift…

A song.

(you can listen to it or read the lyrics below)

Why are you striving these days
Why are you trying to earn grace
Why are you crying
Let me lift up your face
Just don’t turn away

Why are you looking for love
Why are you still searching as if I’m not enough
To where will you go child
Tell me where will you run
To where will you run

And I’ll be by your side
Wherever you fall
In the dead of night
Whenever you call
And please don’t fight
These hands that are holding you
My hands are holding you

Look at these hands and my side
They swallowed the grave on that night
When I drank the world’s sin
So I could carry you in
And give you life
I want to give you life

Cause I, I love you
I want you to know
That I, I love you
I’ll never let you go

By Your Side–Tenth Avenue North

This season, He is by my side. And while He may not be visible He is still there. Drying my tears, Loving Me, Holding Me and even at times Carrying me.

And on the nights when the loneliness is intense I am going to choose to go to Him this year. I am not going to wish I had a human to hold but instead let Him hold me.

I am going to make it a Christmas of rejoicing and Light. I am going to fight my way out of the past and look to today and tomorrow.

I am going to let Him Love me and Know me, and I am going to Love Him and Know Him.

I am looking forward to the next few weeks :o)



8 Responses to “Don’t Worry, Honey, God will bring you someone special.”

  1. 1 Kristen December 15, 2008 at 1:23 pm

    This is a beautiful testament to faith hitting the pavement and doing this thing for the glory of Christ. I am moved to be better before Him as I read your words…your heart shared.

    “The one who has called you is faithful, and he will do it.”

    <3, Kristen

  2. 2 Maria D. December 15, 2008 at 2:20 pm

    Thanks for being venerable with us.

  3. 3 Amydeanne December 17, 2008 at 8:44 am

    those are great ornaments! What a lovely post Christy! you are such an encouragement to me!

  4. 4 Amydeanne December 17, 2008 at 8:48 am

    i posted in the wrong spot! i meant to post on the WFW post.. than i was going to post on this one!

    Hugs Christy! you are a wonderful young woman! and yes, we’re getting older, but sometimes there are reasons for everything… I wish I knew God’s reasoning… as I’m learning slowly “the best is yet to come”… i know that i”m on the other end of spectrum.. but when you’re where I am.. you wish you didn’t have sticky fingers groping me everyday.. and my nice clothes weren’t trashed … and than I remember how badly i prayed for this… God knew his timing.. and as much as I hate to hear it for myself it really is true.. God knows how to make your life the best for you.. so hugs.. cuz he’s got something great in store for you!

  5. 5 Randy December 17, 2008 at 2:24 pm


    Sorry this comment is not about your post.

    I just wanted to say thanks a million for stopping by Ethos!

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  6. 6 Amy @ My Friend Amy December 17, 2008 at 10:33 pm

    Ah, I know what you mean!!!

    I’m actually usually quite happy being single, but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t also be happy with a different scenario.

    :) hugs to you friend!

  7. 7 dmar9 March 11, 2009 at 10:22 am

    Well at least you are a truly beautiful person. This should be noticed by the right type of guy. Should the right type of guy come along and you find that you like him too then I’m sure it will work out, the wonderfulness you have developed being on your own will really help in the end.

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